11/20/11 Adoption

1.       How to deal with adoption. I have seriously thought about adopting children. I am not married so I obviously don’t know what his views will be on the matter but after taking this class I feel like I am more prepared to handle it. One of my best friends had foster children in her home growing up and since I have known her I have had a love for the system. I feel like I would be a good foster parent.

11/15/11

1.       The influence birth order has on the members of the family. This semester we talked a lot about birth order and the family system. The oldest child is usually responsible and knows how to take charge. The youngest is more of a free spirit. When we first started talking about this I didn’t feel like this was actually the case but as I thought of examples, I believed it more and more. I am the oldest and I see myself having all of the qualities we talked about in class. 

11/8/11 Communication

1.       I need to learn how to be more careful with what I say. Communication can be a really good thing but sometimes it can get out of hand. I know a lot of people, especially girls, who think that they can tell everyone everything all of the time. It is really not a good thing because it usually ends up biting them in the butt. I think this is important especially when I am married because the only person you should tell everything to is your husband.

12/11/12 Divorce

When I was two years old my mom and dad got divorced. It really wasn't that hard for me but as I got older I realized that I really did need a father figure. When I was eight years old my mom got remarried to a man named Tyler that quickly became my father. The transition to having a new father was not bad for me at all. I felt like it was a sleepover every night but most children do not react this way. If I ever have to go through this situation I hope that I will be prepared to handle it since I have taken this class.

12/1/11 Parenting

Having children is one of the most fulfilling things that we can do in this life. We can learn and grow as we help provide a stable family for another one of Gods spirit children. It is very important that we do everything in our power to set our children up for success in life. Our parenting styles will greatly influence the children for the rest of our lives.

11/2/11 Cheating

I have seen way too much cheating in my lifetime. It has been so sad to see so many of my family members get divorced because of cheating. My mom was the relief society president for a couple years and she would always tell me how much social networking can harm a marriage. Many of the women in the ward were having problems  with facebook because they would add their exboyfriends from college or high school and rekindle their relationship without their spouse knowing. To make sure this never happens to me I want to make sure that I have all of my spouses passwords and make sure that they have all of mine.

10/26/11 Arguments

I have found that the way you react in an argument can greatly affect your marriage happiness. I am currently reading The Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman. This book is a great one to read if you are married or not. It teaches you how you should respond to arguments. It focuses mainly on how you should respond with your spouse but it can definitely help you when you are working with roommates, family members, or friends. It is highly recommended.

10/17/11 Choosing a Spouse

There are many different types of love. I think in the world today people mix up these different types and confuse them. People mistake lust for love all the time they think that the feelings they are feeling are love when they really only want the physical forms instead. My dad told me that on his mission women would think that they were in love when in reality they just felt close to the missionary. It is important that we understand the different types of love.

10/10/11 Men and Women Differences

This week we talked about the differences between men and women. I have been able to see the differences between men and women by watching my siblings as they grow up. The second my brother was born I could tell that he was a boy. He had the temperament of a boy. Once he got a little older I noticed that he knew how to play cars and trains. He made the noises and ran them up and down the sofas. This was incredible to me to see the differences with him and not my little sisters. Heavenly Father made us the gender we are. It was all part of his divine plan. Men and women are different but together they can become Gods and Goddesses.

Culture

Culture is the beliefs, way of life, art, and customs that are shared and accepted by people in a particular society. This week I have given culture a lot of thought. Our culture effects what we do, how we act, and even how we think. People have different views and beliefs on everything. Since I have come to Brigham Young University Idaho I have come to realize the Mormon culture I didn't even know I was a part of. I was born in Utah but moved when I was eight to Missouri. I was the only member in my High School and soon came to find out that I was very different from all of the other kids in my school. My religion has effected me in ways I never would have thought. When I came out to school I realized that I dressed the same as all of the other Mormon girls. I even realized that my handwriting looked like the majority of the girls my ages. This was so comforting to me because I was finally in a place where I fit in.

Exchange Theory

This week in class we focused a lot on different theories about how people relate to each other. I am a psychology major so this really interested me. The theory that peaked my interest the most was the exchange theory. The exchange theory is all about how people keep track of how much they give and take in a relationship. If the person feels like they are giving more than they are taking they are most likely going to be unhappy in the relationship.

While I was thinking about this theory I was thinking that this wasn't really relative to me. I felt like I was more giving and didn't expect anything in return. Over the weekend I noticed that this wasn't the case. I think that as people we do this without even noticing. We subconsciously keep a record of what we do for others and what they do for us.

1st Post

This is my first official post for my blog! I still don't quite know how to work it so hopefully this will show up!